A lot of guys can sympathize, some more than others. Chronically shy guys can’t cure shyness in five easy lessons, so we can give you five tips for overcoming your inner Charlie Brown.
Look for Like-minded Mates
Having common interests or shared circumstances makes it easier to break the ice, and you’re more likely to pick events that you’ll both enjoy. If you get to see each other in ordinary situations, that might be even better. When you clean cages at the animal shelter with someone, worrying about impressing her on a date seems kind of pointless.
Stay Within Your Comfort Zone
Until you gain more confidence in yourself and the relationship, look for situations where you know your way around. That doesn’t mean you have to go to the same restaurant every time. On the other hand, stay open to ideas that stretch a little beyond the tried and true. Trust your date not to suggest something where you’d really feel lost or bored — she wants to have a good time, too!
Take reasonable steps to avoid any surprises. Scout the place out and do a run-through. Find out how much money you’ll need for food, tickets or souvenirs. It also helps to have a backup plan. Check with your date first, however.
Don’t Expect Perfection
Suppose you’re enjoying a really good hamburger. Would you lose your appetite because you think it could use more onions? It’s the same with dating. You can both have a good time even if your haircut looks nerdy and you don’t get her jokes.
Make It About Her
If you’ve been reading between the lines, you see this is the essence of a good date. Smile when you see her. Compliment her hair. If it’s raining, offer to drop her off at the door. Ask her questions. It flatters her and takes the focus off you. When it’s your turn, avoid making yourself sound like a superhero. A little modesty makes you look a lot better.